How is this happening FOR me?
This is my favorite question to ask myself!
Because when we ask ourselves a question, our brains get to work on answering it.
And I want my brain seeking out answers that will serve me well, instead of take me down.
For example, let's say your principal assigns you to 5th grade, when you want to stay in 3rd.
If you ask yourself, "Why is this happening to me?" then your brain is going to come up with answers like these: Because...he's a jerk, terrible stuff always happens to me, or I never get what I want.
But, if your ask yourself, "How is this happening FOR me?" your brain will seek answers like these: Because...it's time to stretch myself, he believes in me and now I can focus on believing in me, or I can be a leader on that team.
Remember, your brain will find the answers to the questions you ask it, so choose wisely.
Ask, "How is this happening FOR me?"